Look on Amazon (or a bookshop if you want to be retro) and you’ll find a massive section of books about positive thinking. The books might call it something different – ‘The Secret’ or ‘The Law of Attraction’ and Noel Edmonds made us all giggle calling it ‘Cosmic Ordering’ – but the essence of it is the same. What you put out, you get back, so think positive thoughts and positive things will happen to you. Oh really?
It’s a really hard thing to do when you’re not in a good place. Try telling someone that their bad luck might just be down to a negative attitude and you probably won’t end up with many friends. There is some truth in the idea that you attract what you think about though. Without wanting to sound too woo-woo, think of it like this.
Our brains have to deal with an amazing amount of information all at the same time. We have noises, sounds, smells and everything around us to make sense of, and although brains are highly sophisticated things, they can’t possibly focus on every single piece of information they get at once. They filter things out, which is why when you concentrate on one person you’re talking to, you filter out the rest of the people talking in the street or room, or when you’re trying really hard to concentrate on finishing a piece of work, or something you’re really absorbed in, like painting or watching a film, you don’t notice other things going on around you.
Your brain filters information through the filters you set up, too. Ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong? It’s almost guaranteed that if you wake up thinking “Today is going to be a nightmare” you’ll be right. Your emotions and thoughts have set up a filter in your mind, to look for events that back up your belief that today is going to suck. You might walk past the old friend in the street, ignore the gorgeous sunset, miss the email with the voucher for dairy free ice cream…all because your mind is convinced today is a bad day and you’re only looking for the bad things that reinforce what you’ve told it. You’re in a bad mood, and you’re going to stay there.
What’s more, when you’re in a funk, you attract other people who are miserable. Ever noticed how when you are fed up and having a moan, you end up having a rant that other people join in with, and the misery grows? Yes, misery DOES love company. Your negativity is sending for back up!
If you put a positive spin on things, life lightens up. The old quote “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right” comes into play. If you wake up full of positive energy, telling yourself that you’re going to get things done, you will. Your mind will be primed to search for the positive things in your day. You’ll feel happy and energetic, and people will be drawn to you because they feel happy around you. So you might get offers of nights out, dates, even work!
It’s not always easy to turn a grumpy mood into a good one, but if you do start feeling fed up and you want to snap out of it, try baby steps. You’re not going to be able to go from “I have no money in my bank account and it’s three days until pay day,” to “Life is wonderful” just like that, but you can move the positivity up a gear by saying, “I have no money in my account BUT I have a roof over my head, all my bills are paid for this month and I get paid in a few days.”
When it comes to your health and weight loss goals, if you constantly look in the mirror and criticise yourself or tell yourself you will never achieve the look you want or never be able to drop a dress size, YOU REINFORCE IT! You reinforce that negative view of yourself, that view that you are a failure and can’t achieve your goals. Then what happens? You eat a whole load of naughty cake to try to make yourself feel better and you get stuck in the vicious cycle. Have you ever tried looking in the mirror and complimenting yourself? Told yourself ‘you got this!’? I didn’t think so! Give it a go and you will be amazed how much better you will feel and how much more positive progress you will make.
Positive thinking has helped me through some difficult and dark times in life, it really does work.
One last quote on positive thinking that always makes me smile…”A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” – Herm Albright.
I love to incorporate positive thinking and the emotional side of wellbeing into my holistic health and weight loss plans. If this is something that may interest you, you can find out more information HERE.
Love Natasha x